With so much going on during your wedding planning, it can be easy to become stressed. It’s an overwhelming task but it should be a time to enjoy yourself as you plan the biggest day of your life. If you feel yourself starting to get stressed during your wedding planning it’s time to make a cup of tea, sit down, and read on for advice on how to keep calm when planning your wedding.
Start your planning early
Even if you’re wedding isn’t for months (or even years!), start early and take it slow and don’t be scared to ask professionals for their opinion, speak to other friends that have gotten married, and ask for help where you need it.
Get organised with your ideas, put computer files into one place, start pinning your ideas onto Pinterest boards and magazine clippings into folders so you know the exact place you need to look for inspiration. Even just by narrowing down some of your choices it will make the planning less overwhelming.
Take care of yourself
If you ever feel all the stress build up on top of you, remember to take some time for yourself. Get your bridal party together and go for a treat such as an afternoon tea to just relax – and maybe make the wedding a banned topic! This might not always be feasible if the stress is happening frequently, so have something small you can do at home such as having a lavender bath with tea lights, go for a walk or simply listening to some music. This also includes eating right to make sure you feel your best.
Prepare your help for on the day
The last thing you want to be doing while you’re getting ready and excited on your wedding day is taking phone calls, answering questions and organising guests. Do all your planning in advance so that you have chosen someone, either a family member or someone in your bridal party, to be that designated organiser on the day.
Remind yourself why you’re doing this
Read back old messages between you and your fiancé, go on a date, look through photographs and remember why you fell in love and why you are getting married. Also, focus on the fun aspects of planning. This is a special time that you won’t get back and you should really enjoy all the great things that come with being engaged, so don’t lose sight of this and definitely don’t make the wedding all that you talk about day to day! You don’t want to make it feel like it’s taking over your whole life.
It can add even more stress to your planning when family get involved and try to take over. Gently remind them that this is your wedding and while you appreciate their input, you know what you want. Don’t make promises you can’t keep and don’t agree to ideas that you don’t like.
Share the stress
It’s both yours and your fiancé’s wedding so when you need help, ask for it. You don’t have to load them with all of your worries but they can help take some of the pressure off. The best worry to share with your partner is the money aspect. Discuss your budget at the beginning and stick to it, you don’t want extra financial pressure put on top of you as well as the stress of planning. Also, ask your close friends and family for help when you need it, it’s a great time to share your experience and that includes the good and bad parts.
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